Introducing the Newest Burned Haystack Category: "Am I Overthinking This?"
Sounds like a case of the ick 😬. What should she do?
I get a LOT of post requests, messages, and emails that begin with this question, so we’re making a new category! The first edition is below . . . Please provide kind and constructive feedback to the community member who is asking. ❤️🔥
So, I started seeing this man. We're both in our 60's. He texts every day and makes plans to see me. One thing that bugs me: he's always complimenting me in a flirty way. It just doesn't feel genuine. When he texts, it's like I'm reading a romance novel with gushing complimenting. We do text about other things, but he ALWAYS sneaks in a mushy prose no matter what the subject is. I don't think he's my needle. It's just too much. Like alright already. Am I overthinking it?
This would bother me enough to discontinue. I realize people have different feelings about compliments, but to me this is sort of a boundary violation, and also he seems unable to read a room (the room being you in this case --- you're clearly not reinforcing this or expressing appreciation, and he just keeps doing it).
Trust your instincts on this one I think. If it feels a little over the top it is.
I fallen for this twice. As I look back, one was very obvious, but the other was more subtle. I later discovered it was love bombing which after a couple of months subtlety morphed into negging. Both men were on the narcissistic spectrum.