These guys are everywhere. They spend all their time dreaming of a woman to fulfill every possible need. Pretty sure Jason doesn't understand women are human beings.
He wants someone to be his camping buddy and beer holder, while looking hot as eff and being responsible enough to choose all the right groceries at the supermarket for his trip. One hand puts the worm on the hook: perfectly manicured of course. The other baits his worm. All done with a perfect smile and a modest dusplay of cleavage.
It's the whole concept of needing to "win him over" that pisses me off. I'm not performing for anyone. We meet, we talk, we spend some time together - and then it works or it doesn't. He's certainly entitled to keep his little wish list in his head and decide at any point that I'm not really what he's after. But I'm not going to tailor my behaviour to what he says he wants.
Jason, the way to win ME over is be unconscious. I mean truly in a dead, poison-applesque sleep so I can simply not deal with you. You could also be: in another state, on vacation in a distant country, on a boat in the middle of the ocean, in a rocket headed for Mars… take your pick! I’m not fussy. Or confused. Unlike you.
Great example! Train has a lot of songs that are low-key misogynistic. Their song “50 Ways to Say Goodbye” has always given me the ick. Not to mention “Drops of Jupiter” and so many of their other hits are just songs about flattening women to be ideal for the male gaze.
Seriously, Jason? You want a woman who gets her nails done and wants to go camping with you??? Ewww... call me crazy but do we get our nails done for men??? I don't get them done because I don't have the patience and don't care but that is my choice!
I have just removed myself from the abyss of online dating. I chose badly when I married 30 years ago and I am quite sure my own and friends' company is all I need at the moment. I do, however, enjoy the dissection of dating profiles and love your views and those of the brilliant women in the group.
Thanks so much for this, Jennie! I love your sense of humour and the way your members are respectful and respected! It's like being part of a secret tribe full of smart and progressive women who lift each other up. I am so glad I found it and I hope Jason finds some depth...
Tammy, agreed! And they’re such sooky la-las if you call them out!
I would much prefer to laugh at profile dissections without ever needing to deal with those men and their terribly fragile glass jaws - completely exhausting!
Oh my goodness- i had to check my emails to see if it was showing me the same one as last time! Flippin eck- theres so many of these guys out there! Glad to see you're being yourself there, Jason! Its so easy to 🔥🔥🔥 🤣
My Bumble ex used the same prompt, “the way to win me over is to listen to me.” I didn’t understand CDA then and trauma bonded with him. He later told be he wished that the sound of his voice automatically triggered my brain to hear and process every word he uttered. He wanted an AI GF. So many of them do.
Be yourself as long as she is who I think you should be. Be everything all at once but not too much. Ick, he has ridiculous expectations and is probably really lame
I'll pass on winning you over, Jason.
These guys are everywhere. They spend all their time dreaming of a woman to fulfill every possible need. Pretty sure Jason doesn't understand women are human beings.
Be yourself but let me help you out by telling you who I’d like you to be.
Exactly!
He wants someone to be his camping buddy and beer holder, while looking hot as eff and being responsible enough to choose all the right groceries at the supermarket for his trip. One hand puts the worm on the hook: perfectly manicured of course. The other baits his worm. All done with a perfect smile and a modest dusplay of cleavage.
Ding ding ding! You nailed it 💯
I want someone “nice.”
Wow, try not to be too specific there with your modifiers, Jason! 😏
It's the whole concept of needing to "win him over" that pisses me off. I'm not performing for anyone. We meet, we talk, we spend some time together - and then it works or it doesn't. He's certainly entitled to keep his little wish list in his head and decide at any point that I'm not really what he's after. But I'm not going to tailor my behaviour to what he says he wants.
I would like to introduce Jason to commas and apostrophes. I suppose that would not qualify as “nice”. 🤣
Jason, the way to win ME over is be unconscious. I mean truly in a dead, poison-applesque sleep so I can simply not deal with you. You could also be: in another state, on vacation in a distant country, on a boat in the middle of the ocean, in a rocket headed for Mars… take your pick! I’m not fussy. Or confused. Unlike you.
Soooo many of these guys looking for The Perfect Woman Built to Order. Good luck, fellas 🙄
True, it's got some "designing my AI girlfriend" vibes too.
I swear these dudes order up a woman the way they search their porn. They have lost the concept that women are people. Did they ever have it?!
I’m not a set of a la carte menu items, out for delivery. Buzz off Jason et al
The song Meet Virginia by Train, which I have always hated, also personifies and idolizes this impossible woman:
She never compromises
Loves babies and surprises
Wears high heels when she exercises
Ain't that beautiful
Meet Virginia
Wow, that’s disgusting
Great example! Train has a lot of songs that are low-key misogynistic. Their song “50 Ways to Say Goodbye” has always given me the ick. Not to mention “Drops of Jupiter” and so many of their other hits are just songs about flattening women to be ideal for the male gaze.
Yeah, I totally agree. I do not like that band or any of their songs, but that one in particular seem to fit the prompt here.
Ha. I see myself in his wants, but these men don't want a confident woman or to 'be ourselves'
LIESSS - B2B!!! I love seeing these CDAs! Thank you
They all say they want a strong, confident woman - until they get one. Then they don’t like us so much because we’re strong and confident.
Exactly.. they find out pretty quick they cant change or control me… 😂
Sorry.. NOT sorry.
Seriously, Jason? You want a woman who gets her nails done and wants to go camping with you??? Ewww... call me crazy but do we get our nails done for men??? I don't get them done because I don't have the patience and don't care but that is my choice!
I have just removed myself from the abyss of online dating. I chose badly when I married 30 years ago and I am quite sure my own and friends' company is all I need at the moment. I do, however, enjoy the dissection of dating profiles and love your views and those of the brilliant women in the group.
Thanks so much for this, Jennie! I love your sense of humour and the way your members are respectful and respected! It's like being part of a secret tribe full of smart and progressive women who lift each other up. I am so glad I found it and I hope Jason finds some depth...
Best wishes and thanks from Qld, Australia.
Wants a girlfriend who gets her nails done but I'll bet once he's wifed her, he'll bitch about the $80+ it costs for her to maintain them.
Adrienne - ditto re: removing myself from the shitshow of online dating apps.
Dissecting their profiles on here alongside other smart women is much more fun than trying to deal with them on the apps.
I completely agree that they, almost without exception, can’t tell that women are actually people.
I’m also in Australia - but Melbourne, Victoria.
Tammy, agreed! And they’re such sooky la-las if you call them out!
I would much prefer to laugh at profile dissections without ever needing to deal with those men and their terribly fragile glass jaws - completely exhausting!
Thanks for dropping in - I love Melbourne :)
Adrienne I’m in the same boat with you (I’m also in Queensland too)
Jason makes me want to gain some weight and be more rude in general. Hee-haw!
Oh my goodness- i had to check my emails to see if it was showing me the same one as last time! Flippin eck- theres so many of these guys out there! Glad to see you're being yourself there, Jason! Its so easy to 🔥🔥🔥 🤣
My Bumble ex used the same prompt, “the way to win me over is to listen to me.” I didn’t understand CDA then and trauma bonded with him. He later told be he wished that the sound of his voice automatically triggered my brain to hear and process every word he uttered. He wanted an AI GF. So many of them do.
Yikes 😳
Be yourself as long as she is who I think you should be. Be everything all at once but not too much. Ick, he has ridiculous expectations and is probably really lame