Women on the Dating Apps: Do NOT Use These Bumble Prompts
Here's why:
For all of the prompts in this first group, you're just giving away the playbook and showing someone how to manipulate you.
Anyone can exhibit your favorite quality or plan your perfect date or win you over or show a green flag when you’ve already given him the answer key, but only for a period of time.
And that time will be WASTED. You should ONLY be interested in how men display any/all of these things withOUT being clued in to do so:
My favorite quality in a person is . . .
My perfect first date is . . .
Win me over by . . .
My ultimate green flag is . . .
I'm hoping you . . .
Hopefully you're also really into . . .
The quickest way to my heart is . . .
What I'd really like to find is . . .
And now a few individual prompts to avoid and why:
I show I care by . . . [Don’t set yourself up as the caregiver. There are TOO many men on the apps just looking for women to attend to and care for them in all kinds of ways. They will flock to this prompt. 🙄🚩]
I feel my hottest when . . . [This invites the guys who lead with sex, and if you’re following Burned Haystack that is something you want to absolutely avoid.]
Teach me something about . . . [Ugh, don’t invite mansplaining. Trust me on this. 😬]
I get fully nervous when . . . [This is precisely the kind of information that toxic, manipulative men are looking for. Don’t hand it over; it’ll be used against you. ☠️]
My most important boundary is . . . [Ditto. This one is double-edged. It’ll clue bad dudes into what they need to pretend to honor while also revealing your most intimate triggers; strange men on the internet should NOT have access to this information. Ever. 🚫]
One thing you need to know about me is . . . [Ditto from above.]
What my therapist would say about me . . . [Ditto again, and just highly inappropriate. Nobody should be sharing therapy reports with strangers. It creates false intimacy and renders you vulnerable in ways that can be weaponized and exploited.]
What prompts WOULD be good to utilize when setting up your profile? Would love your input on this @JennieYoung! Thank you! 🙌
Came over here from the fb group post talking about which prompts to use and your tendency to skew negative. You strike me as a radical person in the sense that you tend to address issues at their root. Rather than sell women a bandaid or coping mechanism to delude themselves into being happy, you’ve identified one of the core drivers of our unhappiness, deadweight in romantic relationships and are ferociously spreading the word about it. So that women and non-binary people can have the capacity to pursue joy as they define it.